From one’s own volition
Inviting in and creating space for new opportunities
Guiding inquiry: What is important to know now to be in connection with my purpose?
Elements: Self, value, challenge, resource, capacity and the unknown
This map series emerged from the client's feelings at the beginning of a session. “There is pressure on my back and tension in my stomach.” From there, we peeled back the layers and learned more about the pressure and tension present. There was a familiar sense of feeling pushed towards goals that were not hers. Once she arrived at the prescribed milestone or achievement, it brought up fear that she didn’t deserve to be there. This fear set the cycle in motion again.
We decided to create a new map set and one dedicated to transforming old patterns and mindsets — from a state of reactivity and self-doubt to leaning into new possibilities in life, being open-minded, and feeling comfortable in the unknown. We used a systems sensing approach with the inquiry and elements above.
Key insights and wisdom of each element:
Self: Too comfortable and not in “the good” way. Feeling bored and lost — like there is no point.
Value (emerging): “Get ready for adventure” and a calling to “step out of your comfort zone.” To get there it said “create space for me.” Time for self brings clarity of goals.
Challenge: The thing she needed to watch out for was how to discern — when and how to prioritize space for herself. This was the inner - muscle she had to “actively exercise.”
Resource: Compassion, care, and curiosity. It became grounding to experience feelings including grief and also joy, rather than make herself wrong.
Unknown: Open and close one chapter or one thing at a time. She developed a small ritual to close something consciously which included appreciation.
Integration
I shared the map after she had a week to integrate it. “That’s me. I feel so seen,” she shared in response. In several other coaching calls, we often referred back to the maps for reference. Many of the new patterns and goals were generally quick for her to implement. As she stayed open to new opportunities, she explored new roles and began to see herself differently. In general, she reported that she was more kind and compassionate to herself and felt more resourced as a result.